Please help.... my anxiety over this is about to kill me What do you think about this? Can I trust any of them?

The rev's wife hasn't confirmed me on facebook. I sent her a letter which she didn't respond to. She is always ignoring me. I wrote the deacon's daughter to see what was going on. She said she wouldn't worry about it and that they're having a hard time right now. May I add, they're friends on facebook. She also told me she's supposed to be helping the rev with some party. I found out from my uncle that I'm helping out with a party at church on Sun. I thought it was the same one so I called her back to tell her but it's not. So this means she's closer to them...I think. So would she lie to them. I think she's playing all of us. Also, the rev is on facebook and he had to see that we're friends so maybe he doesn't want her talking to me. Thus, trying to invite her to stuff. The deacon's daughter is a big gossip and everyone's trying to get close to her. Why?